Your personality is just a LIE. Don't get entangled into improving your personality.
Updated: Sep 3, 2020
It is very important to know if your aspirations or goals mean something to you because most of these goals are traps. These are traps you can't return from because it is a one-way street. I am sure many people who are older to you will tell you they are fortunate for the things they dreamt of at the age of 18 did not come true. If everything that you desire and dreams came true in your life, could you live with it? Fortunately many such things got filtered by God and never came true. To decide the goals of your life, it will be good if you take a break from all kinds of influences around them; social influences, family influences and other influences. It is important to sit down, meditate and bring yourself to a certain level of clarity and joy. You must decide your goals when you are very happy and clear. You should not set goals in a state of desperation. Desperate goals that you set will mean a lot at that moment, however, tomorrow morning you will wake up and you will never know why you are tangled up with it. So it will be good if you fix your life only when you are peaceful, happy and clear headed and not influenced by anything around you. You do not have to build a personality for that, you strive for that. The necessary persona will come.
You must understand what a personality is. The word personality comes from the word persona. Persona means a "mask". This is a mask that they used to use in old theaters. The same people will be playing many roles. For example, Ramayan is taking place. You have to play Sita's role, Ram's Role and Hanuman's Role. For every role there is a one-one mask. You hold this mask to your face and speak like Rama. Then you keep this mask down. You pick another mask and speak like Sita and keep it down. You do that for every different role. This is how the plays were done. So these are these masks which were referred to as a persona. So personality means, you held a mask and that mask got stuck to your face. You can't pull it out. That means you have a personality. Personality is something that people are trying to develop because they have lost the sense of being. Instead of a real thing you are probably trying to concretize a fake thing. If you are in touch with your being why do you want a personality. It is not necessary. You can be a different personality in different places. You are actually being, already, or are you stuck with one personality. Some people are for real stuck in one personality. People who are simplistic in their head have only one personality. Others have different personalities in different areas of life.
I often tell people around me that I will change my personality but don't be shocked, I will remain the same guy. They said no problem and I said hang on, things will change, everything about me will change. The way I operate will change and the way I do everything will change. They said no problem we know you and we love you. They said a lot of things but I asked them to hang on because when things change people fall-off. A lot of people fell off because they could not believe it. They had this question: where is that person that they knew, that person just evaporated. This is a new person. They could not identify with this new person. I told them and changed. In spite of that, they fell off. So many people who were very close to me just fell away because I changed dramatically. I changed because one phase of work is over, now it was the time to change my personality.
So personality is something you have taken on. You have become so unconscious about it that you think it is for real. You ask how to develop, that means you are making it up right? Another word for developing is making up, isn't it? You are making it up. Make it up whichever way it is suitable for your kind of activity. But you must be able to keep the personality down. If it gets stuck to your face, then it becomes a misery. You can take up any kind of personality, but when you want to keep it down you must be able to keep it down.
There was a sage. He was so wise that people went to him and used to gather. Then the king got to know about him. He thought that such a wise man should be in his court. The king thought that a wise man like him should not go waste sitting under a tree. So the king told the sage that you must come and become my chief-minister. The sage agreed but said that I have a condition. He said that the king should give him a room in his palace, where he can spend one hour daily. Nobody should peep into that room and no one should ask what it is about. The sage asked to keep the room away from the servant, the secret agents and everybody. The king did not really have a problem with this condition and he agreed. The sage became a minister dressed appropriate for the palace. Whenever a useful meeting used to happen the sage used to go into his room and used to get locked up. He used to come out after an hour. The sage used to go inside especially when something important was needed to be decided or done.
Few years passed. The king has started to become curious. He suddenly wanted to know what the sage does inside. There were rumors that the sage has got something inside. The entire palace started buzzing about what the sage was doing in this room. Everybody wanted to see what was inside the room, but was always locked. The king could not hold it and one day asked the sage that I want to see what is there inside the room. The sage replied saying that there is a promise you have given me. If you break the promise I will leave. So the king contained it. He was wise enough to know that he did not want to lose the man. But the other ministers of the palace were still curious. One day, when the sage was not there, the ministers broke open the door and went inside. They looked around. The room was empty, there was no furniture, nothing. Just an empty room. The ministers asked each other what the sage did in that room. Then in one corner they saw very worn-out clothing, hanging there and a begging bowl. The ministers could not make out what this is. Then the sage came in and said that whatever you wanted to see you have seen. The king asked what do you do here? The sage replied that whenever I want to make an important decision, I wear these worn-out clothes and sit with a begging bowl. Clearly, I don't want to be caught up with all the things of the palace. I don't want my wisdom to be lost in the palace clothes and jewelry. Now that they had broken the promise, the sage left.
This is what meditation is for you. Everyday whenever you sit, you strip yourself down. You do not have to do anything about it. Whenever you make anything up, it needs constant support from you isn't it? Suppose you tell a lie, it will need constant support to keep up. But if something is true, you can even forget it but it is still there isn't it? If it is a lie, you will have to keep it up. Your personality is a lie.
Your being and your existence is the truth. You do not have to keep this up. This will be anywhere there. What you make up for the sake of the society or to function in the society, you will always need a certain kind of make up. You must be able to keep it down.
If you are going to bed fully made up, then there is something definitely wrong with you .